If the things between your daughter-in-law and you are not going as you had thought you would, you might find yourself in a predicament. On one side, you have your son who has chosen her as the life partner and on the other it is your own life. But don’t worry. By being a little patient and tactful, you can deal with her.
First of all start be acknowledging the fact that you have to find a solution to the problem where everyone is happy. Remember that she is the choice of your son and he loves her. Anything you do for or against her will have a direct impact on your son’s life. Make it a point to never be a cry-baby to your son. It is between you and her and do not let the son know there is a problem unless absolutely necessary.
People are not truly bad. They deal with different situations differently. So try to understand where she may be coming from. Even if her behavior is inappropriate, try to remain affectionate with her. This does not mean you will need to bear everything that is wrong. It simply means that you will deal with everything like a mature person.
Different people come from different backgrounds and their habits and lifestyles are also different. A lot of discords happen in the family when the lifestyles do not match. If your daughter-in-law is in the habit of not putting the things from where she picked them, most likely she has not been taught that. So be patient and overlook certain mistakes. Find the opportune time and then talk to them.